LETTING GO OF RESENTMENTS
By Doria Gambino

If there is a person in your life (even someone in the past) who annoys you in some way, creating negative feelings like resentment or stress that you are carrying around with you, try this exercise:

EVERY time you think about this person, mentally send them a wave of love and light. EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU THINK ABOUT THEM. Tell yourself that from this day forward, you are no longer “allowed” to spend even one minute of your time wallowing in feelings of resentment.

Try doing any or all of the following whenever you think of the person who bothers you: Send a wave of love from your heart to theirs; visualize yourself giving the person a hug; picture the two of you standing in front of each other and smiling; think about and remember all of this person’s good qualities and any good times you’ve shared; speak to them in your mind saying things such as “I love you” or “I bless you” or “I forgive you;” whatever works for you.

If you need a reminder to keep yourself focused on this process, you can make a “Peace Mandala.” Take a piece of cardboard, and on one side draw a large peace symbol. On the other side, write the name of the person you resent, and then write your own peace prayer about this person. You could write a blessing wishing them well. You could list a bunch of their good qualities, to help shift your focus towards the positive. Or you could write an affirmation such as “There is now peace and harmony between myself and (their name).” Hang this mandala where you will see it every day.

Realistically, this healing exercise may take you awhile to master. Especially if:

A) Your negative emotional response to this person is very strong and you are carrying deep anger towards them.

B) You honestly believe that your anger towards them is justified, because you feel that what they do or did is truly in the wrong.

C) This person continues to do the same annoying things every time you encounter them in the present day.



You may need to really push yourself at first to keep maintaining this exercise, but if you keep at it, two miraculous things will happen as a result of the shift in consciousness you create:

1) Over time, ALL of your anger, resentment, anxiety and so forth will melt away, leaving you free to be serene and happy inside. You will actually stop reacting to this person -- you’ll stop getting irritated, you’ll stop brooding about situations past and present, and you’ll stop worrying about future encounters with him or her.

2) Even though you may not have taken any direct action to work out this situation with the other person, THEIR patterns of behavior will gradually start to change. Believe it or not, once YOU no longer carry a negative emotional charge towards their annoying behaviors, these behaviors will actually slow down, then eventually stop altogether. Sound too good to be true? Get yourself truly and completely clear inside, and watch what happens...



Remember the slogan of the Planetary Peace Gathering: “Peace of MIND = Peace on EARTH.” This applies to two people as much as it applies to entire nations.

Keep this in mind as well: Doing the exercise above can actually help you understand the reasons for your situation more clearly, for once you get past the veil of anger and bitterness, you can see both your own and the other person’s behavior from a new perspective, and you can learn things about yourself that lead to breakthroughs and shifts in your own consciousness. Once you learn the “lesson” you are supposed to learn from any scenario, your soul will no longer need to repeat the experience, and the situation will resolve itself.

From a spiritual perspective, every conflict in your life presents an opportunity for you to learn and grow. Your so-called “enemies” are really just your teachers. They are actually a “gift,” and once you find the “karmic blessing” hidden within the situation, you can benefit from the challenges these people presented to you, and grow as a result.


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