Just when you think that you have an understanding of the power and the effects of unconditional love, you jump behind the wheel of your SUV and proceed out onto the highways and byways of the civilized world only to find yourself tested. What you had not anticipated was a rather rude and inconsiderate driver who either cuts you off, is tailgating you, or is committing some other inappropriate action with a motor vehicle. All of a sudden, unconditional love is out the window, and has been replaced with hostility and an overwhelming desire to run that person off the road. Before you let your annoyance build into a full-blown case of “road rage,” it’s a good idea to pull over for a change of attitude. I’ve learned that pulling over, collecting my thoughts, calming down, and trying to forgive that other driver allows love to come back into my consciousness and diffuse the moment. This method works for just about everything people do that is detrimental to their state of well-being. Most of those things can and will benefit from the “Pull over, pause, and refocus on what's really important” method. Think of pulling over to the rest stop as a metaphor for changing bad attitudes and destructive behavior of all kinds. You can begin to heal yourself by stepping back and refocusing yourself every morning when you get up. Each new day is a new opportunity to change. Your body loses 10 - 20 million cells every 24 hours, so technically you are not the same person today as you were yesterday. Everything about your life is a choice: What you wear, what you eat, what you say, and even what you think are subject to your ability to make a conscious decision. Those of us who are struggling with self-defeating habits or emotions must remind ourselves that change comes slowly but it does come; it is inevitable. It is within everyone's power to make those changes positive ones. Just think, maybe a lifelong change of attitude for the better might have as its genesis the simple act of pulling over and not letting some auto-wielding clown ruin your day. So get in your car and go out and practice inner peace. “Our life is what our thoughts make it. A man will find that if he alters his thoughts towards things and other people, things and other people will alter towards him.” James Allen, author of "As a Man Thinketh" Gary T. "Dutch" Van Vorst has been a personal trainer actively training elite athletes for national bodybuilding and powerlifting competitions since 1978. He will be training people on the Indy Racing circuit in 2006. For more information about eligibility for becoming a trainee, contact Dutch at: dutchvv2003@yahoo.com.